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What is self-injury?

 

It's called many things -- self-inflicted violence, self-injury, self-harm, parasuicide, delicate cutting, self-abuse, self-mutilation (this last particularly seems to annoy people who self-injure).

 

Broadly speaking, self-injury is the act of attempting to alter a mood state by inflicting physical harm serious enough to cause tissue damage to one's body.

 

Approximately 1% of the United States population uses physical self-injury as a way of dealing with overwhelming feelings or situations, often using it to speak when no words will come.

 

What is self-injurious behavior?

 

The forms and severity of self-injury can vary, although the most commonly seen behavior is cutting, burning, and head-banging.

 

Other forms of self-injurious behavior include:

carving

scratching

branding

marking

burning/abrasions

biting

bruising

hitting

picking/pulling skin and hair

 

It's not self-injury if the primary purpose is:

  • sexual gratification

  • body decoration (e.g., body piercing, tattooing)

  • spiritual enlightenment via ritual

  • fitting in or being cool

Why does self-injury make some people feel better?

  • It reduces physiological and psychological tension rapidly.
    Studies have suggested that when people who self-injure get emotionally overwhelmed, an act of self-harm brings their levels of psychological and physiological tension and arousal back to a bearable baseline level almost immediately.  In other words, they feel a strong uncomfortable emotion, don't know how to handle it (indeed, often do not have a name for it), and know that hurting themselves will reduce the emotional discomfort extremely quickly. They may still feel bad (or not), but they don't have that panicky jittery trapped feeling; it's a calm bad feeling.

  • Some people never get a chance to learn how to cope effectively.
    One factor common to most people who self-injure, whether they were abused or not, is invalidation.  They were taught at any early age that their interpretations of and feelings about the things around them were bad and wrong.  They learned that certain feelings weren't allowed.  In abusive homes, they may have been severely punished for expressing certain thoughts and feelings.  At the same time, they had no good role models for coping.  You can't learn to cope effectively with distress unless you grow up around people who are coping effectively with distress.  Although a history of abuse is common about self-injurers, not everyone who self-injures was abused.  Sometimes invalidation and lack of role models for coping are enough, especially if the person's brain chemistry has already primed them for choosing this sort of coping.

  • Problems with neurotransmitters may play a role.
    Just as it's suspected that the way the brain uses serotonin may play a role in depression, so scientists think that problems in the serotonin system may predispose some people to self-injury by making them tend to be more aggressive and impulsive than most people.  This tendency toward impulsive aggression, combined with a belief that their feelings are bad or wrong, can lead to the aggression being turned on the self.  Of course, once this happens, the person harming himself learns that self-injury reduces his level of distress, and the cycle begins.  Some researchers theorize that a desire to release endorphins, the body's natural painkillers, is involved.

What kinds of people self-injure?

 

Self-injurers come from all walks of life and all economic brackets. People who harm themselves can be male or female; straight, gay, or bisexual; Ph.D.s or high-school dropouts or high-school students; rich or poor; from any country in the world.  Some people who self-injure manage to function effectively in demanding jobs; they are teachers, therapists, medical professionals, lawyers, professors, engineers.  Some are on disability.  Their ages range from early teens to early 60s.  

 

In fact, the incidence of self-injury is about the same as that of eating disorders, but because it's so highly stigmatized, most people hide their scars, burns, and bruises carefully.  They also have excuses ready when someone asks about the scars.

 

Aren't people who would deliberately cut or burn themselves psychotic?

 

No more than people who drown their sorrows in a bottle of vodka are.  It's a coping mechanism, just not one that's as understandable to most people or as accepted by society as alcoholism, drug abuse, overeating, anorexia and bulimia, workaholism, smoking cigarettes, and other forms of problem avoidance.

 

Okay, then isn't it just another way to describe a failed suicide attempt? 

 

NO.  Self-injury is a maladaptive coping mechanism, a way to stay alive.  People who inflict physical harm on themselves are often doing it in an attempt to maintain psychological integrity -- it's a way to keep from killing themselves.  They release unbearable feelings and pressures through self-harm, and that eases their urge toward suicide.  And, although some people who self-injure do later attempt suicide, they almost always use a method different from their preferred method of self-harm.

 

Can anything be done for people who hurt themselves?

 

Yes.  Several websites offer self-help ideas.  Many new therapeutic approaches have been and are being developed to help self-harmers learn new coping mechanisms and teach them how to start using those techniques instead of self-injury.  These approaches reflect a growing belief among mental-health workers that once a client's patterns of self-inflicted violence stabilize, real work can be done on the problems and issues underlying the self-injury.  Also, research into medications that stabilize mood, ease depression, and calm anxiety is being done; some of these drugs may help reduce the urge to self-harm.

 

This does not mean that individuals should be coerced into stopping self-injury.  Any attempts to reduce or control the amount of self-harm a person does should be based on the person's willingness to undertake the difficult work of controlling and/or stopping self-injury.  Treatment should not be based on a practitioner's personal feelings about the practice of self-harm.

 

What problems may be encountered when getting professional help?

 

Self-injury brings out many uncomfortable feelings in people who don't do it: revulsion, anger, fear, and distaste, to name a few.  If a medical professional is unable to cope with her own feelings about self-harm, then she has an obligation to herself and to her client to find a practitioner willing to do this work.  In addition, she has the responsibility to be certain the client understands that the referral is due to her own inability to deal with self-injury and not to any inadequacies in the client.

 

People who self-injure do generally do so because of an internal dynamic, and not in order to annoy, anger or irritate others.  Their self-injury is a behavioral response to an emotional state, and is usually not done in order to frustrate caretakers.

 

What problems may be encountered in the emergency room?

 

In emergency rooms, people with self-inflicted wounds are often told directly and indirectly, that they are not as deserving of care as someone who has an accidental injury.  They are treated badly by the same doctors who would not hesitate to do everything possible to preserve the life of an overweight, sedentary heart-attack patient.

 

Doctors in emergency rooms and urgent-care clinics should be sensitive to the needs of patients who come in to have self-inflicted wounds treated. If the patient is calm, denies suicidal intent, and has a history of self-inflicted violence, the doctor should treat the wounds as they would treat non-self-inflicted injuries.  Refusing to give anesthesia for stitches, making disparaging remarks, and treating the patient as an inconvenient nuisance simply further the feelings of invalidation and unworthiness the self-injurer already feels.

 

Although offering mental-health follow-up services is appropriate, psychological evaluations with an eye toward hospitalization should be avoided in the emergency room unless the person is clearly a danger to his/her own life or to others.  In places where people know that self-inflicted injuries are liable to lead to mistreatment and lengthy psychological evaluations, they are much less likely to seek medical attention for their wounds and thus are at a higher risk for wound infections and other complications.

 

WHY DO ADOLESCENTS SELF-INJURE?

 

Adolescents who have difficulty talking about their feelings may show their emotional tension, physical discomfort, pain and low self-esteem with self-injurious behaviors.  Although they may feel like the "steam" in the "pressure cooker" has been released following the act of hurting themselves, teenagers may also feel hurt, anger, fear and hate.

 

Most teens who self-injure go to great lengths to hide their wounds and scars.  Many consider their self-harm to be a deeply shameful secret and dread the consequences of discovery.

 

WHAT CAN PARENTS DO ABOUT SELF-INJURY?

Parents must listen to their child and acknowledge their child's feelings.  (In other words, parents should validate feelings -- not necessarily the teen's behavior.)

 

Parents should also serve as role models in the way they deal with stressful situations and traumatic events, in how they respond to other people, by not allowing abuse or violence in the home, and by not engaging in acts of self-harm.

 

Evaluation by a mental health professional may assist in identifying and treating the underlying causes of self-injury.   A mental health professional can also diagnose and treat the serious psychiatric disorders that may accompany self-injurious behavior.

 

Feelings of wanting to die or suicidal plans are reasons for parents to seek professional care for their child  immediately.

 


INFORMATION AND RESOURCES

 

Abuse:  Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Neglect

 

American Self-Harm Information Clearinghouse

 

Anger in Our Teens and in Ourselves ~ The forms and underlying reasons of angry behavior, identifying and managing anger, and what parents can do.

 

Are Suicide Attempters Who Self-Mutilate a Unique Population?

 

The Behavioral Treatment of Self-Mutilation ~ Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is an  effective therapy in reducing self-injurious behavior.

 

Counseling and Therapy ~ Brief descriptions of the methods mental health professionals use and/or recommend for working with troubled teens and their families.  Links to counseling resources.

 

Covering the Pain ~ People who cut themselves do it to mask deep emotional trauma, and their numbers may be growing.

 

Cutting -- The New Anorexia

 

Deliberate self-harm in young people ~ Individuals who are harming themselves are struggling to cope and need help.

 

Eating Disorders

 

The Emergency Room

 

Emotional Health

 

End All The Pain

 

Fears of self-harm prompt drug curb for young ~ A study finds the antidepressant, Effexor, can cause hostility, suicidal ideas and self-harm.

 

The Long Road Back From Bleeding

 

Lysamena Project on Self-Injury

 

Mental Disorders Are Not Diseases

 

Penetrating the Skin ~ A new site about self-injury by a self-injurer.

 

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

 

The Razor's Edge ~ Why even Christian teens aren't immune from the epidemic of self-injury — and what you can do.

 

The Relationship Between Eating Disorders and Self-Injury

 

Secret Cutting:  And the Pain Behind Self Injury

 

Secret Shame ~ Self-injury information and support.

 

Self-Harm: The Damaging Facts

 

Self-Injurious Behavior (pdf)

 

Self-Injury, Abuse, and Trauma Directory

 

Self-Injury Behavior: Emerging Trends and Treatment

 

Self-Injury in Children

 

Self-Injury: Maladaptive Behavior

 

Self-Injury No Longer Rare Among Teens

 

Self- Injury: A Poorly Understood Problem

 

Self-Mutilators Anonymous ~ 12-step support.

 

Short-term treatment and management of self-harm

 

SIARI (UK) ~ A valuable online resource for self-injurers, and for anyone interested in the complex phenomenon of self-injury.  Site maintained by Jan Sutton, author of Healing the Hurt Within: Understand and Relieve the Suffering Behind Self-Destructive Behaviour.

 

Suffering in Silence ~ Almost 90% of self-injurers say they are discouraged from expressing emotions.  Almost 50% report past physical or sexual abuse.

 

Teen Depression

 

Teen Suicide

 

Teenage self-harm widespread

 

Tips for Friends and Family

 

Trichotillomania Learning Center- Information, support, and resource referrals on trichotillomania (TTM) or compulsive hair-pulling.

 

Understanding Self-Injury

 

Who Self-Injures? ~Typically, the self-injurer is female, in her mid-20s to early 30s, and has been hurting herself since her teens. She tends to be middle- or upper-middle-class, intelligent, well-educated, and from a background of physical and/or sexual abuse or from a home with at least one alcoholic parent.  Eating disorders were often reported.

 

Why are so many teenage girls cutting themselves?

 

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